Recently, I decided to see a counselor. I'm not embarrassed to say I was a little lamb lost. I woke up one day and realized
"where did I go?" I recently went through a major life change and decided it was time to work on myself. I think I'm a pretty decent mother, my boys are the best people I know! That said, as Heather, the woman...well, I failed. So it was time for a change. Time to get my head back in the game. While I can't share all the juicy details from my sessions, I can tell you one thing that my counselor gave me the task of working on and it has literally changed my life.
Giving myself permission to be myself. Huh? You mean I'm not being me? No. I wasn't. I was trapped. I was fearful of many things, I hid myself and plugged along in life doing what I thought I was supposed to do- then rinse and repeat and do it again the next day.
I've learned to be liberated. I've learned to stop caring what everyone thinks when it comes to my needs. I don't mean that I've become a completely selfish person and put those I love on the back burner. I just mean I've made myself a priority once again. One of my biggest issues was, ahem, sexual. And I've started my own sexual revolution. I feel enlightened (am I getting cheesy yet?) I feel like a different person. And it only cost me $100 an hour ;) I'm kidding. Kinda. I don't like that it took someone else to help me unearth the woman inside of me, but maybe that's what I needed, for someone else to see it
As mothers, it's natural to let ourselves go, I think. Our kids are our life, at least mine are. And I think that's okay. But somewhere along the way, we have to remind ourselves that we are individuals too. Sure, I LOVE being "Cooper and Bennett's Mom". But I'm also Heather. The person. The woman. And reclaiming that title-I think makes me pretty fancy.
And if she remembers to blog, it happens at www.lifewiththestevens.com
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