I was taken aback because I had watched my son draw closer to my friend over the course of that week. It was as though he knew that she knew him on a level that most don't recognize.
As we watched Pants and Plum play, my friend and I began talking of their sibling relationship. I told her of how Plum protects his heart with a dedication she has for no one else but him. I told my friend that I have a small amount of fear that this job she has chosen will become too heavy for her. I wondered allowed if it was fair to her. That's when my friend said,
"He needed her so he pulled her through. She needed him too, so she came through. It's no burden for either of them"
Now that might sound like hocus pocus hippie-dippy hoo ha to you and that's ok. But to me? I began to cry. I felt something lift as I watched them play and I felt connected to my friend because I knew that she saw the beauty and complexity of Pants and Plum just as I did. And it felt amazing to be understood. To be validated that I wasn't alone in believing in the mystery of this life and how it brought my two babes together. I have always known that they needed the other. I have felt it so deeply.
A few weeks later my friend Lillian messaged me that she wanted to paint something for my Plum. She is an amazing artist who has decided that painting for children is something she would really like to do. I was pretty damn excited to see what she would paint for my little Plum and I jumped at the chance to have her paint for us because I have loved her work for a very long time.
She asked me a few questions about what I was hoping for. I gave her just a few things. The need for color. The idea of fairies. That's really it.
My first sneak peek was this....
When the painting was finished, I showed it to Plum. And do you know what she said?
"Mama! Is my fairy world! Is my world with Silas!"
And my tears came again. How amazing when the experiences of our life bump into each other. Yeah, you nailed it, Lilly. You really nailed it.