If I was meeting you our for dinner and you brought along your other friend and that friend decided that my dinner looked better than hers so she wanted me to give her my dinner, I would stare at her like she was ballsy as hell for asking me for my food, I would consider giving her ONE BITE and then probably not. Because that's weird.
Along those lines, if I came to your house and you were reading a book that interested me, wouldn't it be insane of me to say to you, "In ten minutes, it's my turn to read your book, ok?" I mean, wouldn't you think I was a total ass?
The second thing I know is-
I don't want my kids to be jerks. And they have been. There may or may not be a few disastrous play dates in our history that centered around my kid's ability to share not a darn thing. Not. A. Darn. Thing. And that makes for some uncomfortable seat shifting and a lot of apologizing.
The third thing I know is-
Forced sharing seems wrong to me. But I've done it. And I've done it because I don't want to hurt another child's feelings or I want to teach my kid to share something because its the nice thing to do or because I'm afraid my mama friends will think I am some kind of asshole mom who doesn't make her kid share. But that being said...
The fourth thing I know is-
Sharing is a strange thing we put on kids, right? Because we don't have the same standards for ourselves.
The fifth thing I know is-
Public property is always for sharing. I'm not talking about parks and stuff. I'm talking about your own favorite toys.
The sixth thing I know is-
There is no answer or wisdom in this post. I am genuinely in the shit with this topic. I have a four year-old who struggles with this. And I am an adult woman struggling with this. I have no idea how to proceed. I have no idea what the lesson is. I know that I don't like forced sharing on principle because that's not how the world works. But I want my kid to be nice and to share willingly. I know that I am someone who offers a taste of my entree but dies a little on the inside if you take the best bite. I mean right? Don't they ALWAYS take the best bite? I'm looking at you Daddy Pants. Ahem... I don't know what to do. I guess that's where you come in. Because...
The seventh thing I know is-
My readers are smart as hell. Tell me what to do. Should I force the share? Not force the share? Sometimes force a share? Shit dudes...I have no idea. HELP ME!