Everyday for four days we took epic naps and no one was made to get out of bed before they were ready. When we did get out of bed, we watched the fog that crawled over the yard. We made food together and watched a few movies. Mr. Pants and Daddy cleaned out the garage and found all of the baby toys we'd put away for baby girl and Pants jumped in a leaf pile for the very first time. He wasn't into it. I imagine it was to itchy for his senses. Ms. Plum started to work on really crawling. She looks pretty funny doing it. Slithering like a chubby snake while alternating leg extensions like she is striking a ballet pose. Toes pointed , knee slightly bent. She's already performing. She prefers the army crawl though, because it gets her to where she's going way faster. She also decided that she would no longer be spoon fed and went on solids strike. So just like her big brother we are chucking the purees and instead doing baby led solids. Miss Independant. She started the hard work of getting tooth number two and took it like a champ. And on the third day I heard her say "Mamamama" with a gorgeous clarity (and somewhat on point, because she was ticked) and while I know she hasn't yet made the connection that "Mama" is me, it was beautiful to hear none the less. Mr. Pants discovered the creamy heavan that is Nutella and smeared it all over himself (of coarse). There have been times when I thought about doing that, Nutella is that good. He didn't adjust so well to the time change but he perfected a stunning new dance move we are calling the "Side eye kick step crazy baby" and he let us read him a book. Like the whole thing. Turns out he might have been waiting for mama and daddy to snuggle into bed on either side of him under the down comforter before he'd stand for reading a whole book. Who knew? After two years of not caring at all about it, the Twilight Turtle that grandma got for him suddenly became the most awesome thing he has ever seen. He took it under the covers and giggled with it for for thirty straight minutes. Completely blown away by the stars changing colors from blue to green to amber. And Daddy and I watched and giggled with him. Enjoying him. Being a kid with him. We rolled around on the floor with Ms. Plum and found her tickle spots have changed. She is no longer as ticklish on her belly. Her ribs are the new good spot. All of these things helped us fall deeper in love with each other and i know that sounds super cheesy, but oh well. It's the truth.
We needed this time together. Even if just to learn a few seemingly silly things about each of us. And we need it to happen more regularly. Before we get desperate for it. Because at the end of the day, these crazy loons are my people and I risk disconnecting from them when I get caught up in running a schedule and managing the day instead of living inside of it with them. We do keep some semblance of a schedule to ensure the day doesn't fall into a heaping pile of crazy but we need to be mindful that our days are not just going through the motions. Because these kids are trying very hard to grow up on us. Even if I try binding them to this place and time, I will fail. We just have to stop looking toward bedtime and wishing the day to end (most of the time. I mean sometimes it's just in everyone's best interest for bedtime to come sooner rather than later). Because just four weeks ago, Ms. Plum stayed were I put her. Today she is dragging herself all over the house. Four weeks ago, Mr. Pants didn't sing a song with you ever. Today he skips around the house singing the ABC's (HALF of which is in English!). They are changing with everyday. My wish for Daddy and I is that we grow with them. Because they have lives to live and people to become. The most important thing we can do is to be with the people they are right now. This minute. And soak it up. So that when they are adults themselves and need their mama and daddy (because you are never too old to need mama and daddy), we will have all of the information we need to support them, because we have been witness to who they are in each day that they lived, and we will know what works to soothe them because we have paid attention. We will know the whole of them. And that is such a gift.
So I recommend that you take a staycation with your family. Right now. Go ahead and do it before the holidays make us all a bit nuts. And then take one after the holidays too. Because while I still dream of lounging by the beach and being served cocktails in the sun, for right now, I am dreaming about Daddy taking a few vacation days and all the awesome things we will do and learn about each other the next time we decide to just stay home.