My meeting with his teacher was at 4:15. I was so nervous; I got into some nice jeans (read: clean), put on a sweater and some sassy black boots. I showered, too.

I'm fifteen minutes early so I take a look around. The school is so sweetly small. And that's because it is for miniature people. I stop in the library. It's the cutest library you've ever seen.

I look at the artwork on the walls. I find Mr. Pants' pumpkin hanging among the patch. I get a bit weepy about it.
So I head to the ladies room to freshen up. And I am too tall for it. It's all too adorable.
Making my way back to begin our conference, I am eager to talk about my kid. There is a question nagging at me but I'm afraid to ask it. I received his progress report last week. It basically said he is smart as a whip. It also said he is quiet. Now a lot of people have quiet kids. It's a very natural and normal way to be. There is nothing wrong with it. But my kid is not quiet.  Not by anyone's definition of the word. I read that part over and over. "He keeps to himself". "He's observant and quiet". "Always well behaved". And I panicked. That's not my kid.  My kid is loud and insane. Laughs in guffaws and yell talks. He is demanding and assertive to a fault. But it seems he doesn't rule the pre-school kingdom yet. And a part of me is freaking out while the other half is saying be calm. He's adjusting still. That's when the question came to me. And it never left.

His teacher Mrs. K has a bubbly personality. I like her. She tells me all about the routine of the class. She explained the surprise piece of candy in his back pack the other day. She told me that Mr. Pants is becoming more and more comfortable in class. Not talking very much, but still. He is doing well. She tells me that she doesn't push him to interact with other kids because she thinks that will send him backwards. I agree. She goes on and on and I begin to tune it all out. Because that question is trying to jump out of my mouth and I don't know if I want the answer yet.

She finishes talking. She seems to genuinely like my kid and that makes me happy. She asks if I have any questions. I pause. "Do, um.." I begin trying to think of something else to ask but I have nothing. I start to fumble for my words to stall but they come anyway. "Do they, um, the other kids..." Gulp. I'm trying not to tear up. "Do they like him? Are they nice to him?" and a tear broke through but I kept it in the eye. I felt stupid. I'm such an emotional blob sometimes and I didn't want to do this here. I look down and shuffle the papers in front of me as a diversion. She smiles and says, "I know why that worries you. Yes, they do. He keeps to himself but there is a little girl named K that always eats lunch with him. She's older and she kind of took to him early on and helps him to transition. It's very sweet. And W loves to run with him on the playground. They run laps the whole time. It's so funny. They just laugh and laugh." I thank her and get up to leave.

When I get to my car, I let the tears come. Relief. I head home to my kid who has two friends. Two whole friends. And I cry happy tears about it all the way home.
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Paige
10/10/2012 13:04

Aw man, I did not start reading this expecting to be crying at the end. But I was. Of course they like him. Of course he has friends. I've never even met him and I want to be his friend. *big sniffly hugs*

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Leeann
10/10/2012 14:58

Oh, I have felt the way you do and I have cried from a tear to buckets in my kids' classrooms at various points. Parenting is theist beautiful, tender and heartbreaking thing you will ever do. So glad that your darling son is doing so beautifully.

Btw, I'm on am little puddle jumper right now preparing to head out from a layover in MN to Iowa. I'm heading to the Mt Vernon area!

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Sara
10/10/2012 15:29

Love

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10/10/2012 16:13

I know exactly how you feel. Not know ing how the other kids treat yours is torture, especially if yours is a tiny but different. I know.

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Jessica
10/10/2012 16:15

Oh friend...I know this worries you. But S is an amazing kid with crazy inner sparkle. Ain't no way that people can stay away from that.
(((hugs))))

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10/10/2012 17:36

You made me cry too. That's SUCH a hard question to ask.

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10/10/2012 17:47

Aww my lil boy is a quiet guy so I can totally understand where you are coming from. We all want our kids to be happy and have friends. I love the little pumpkin patch reminded me of my grade school days.

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Trudy Judy
10/10/2012 18:54

I too am in tears...happy ones for you!

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10/10/2012 19:20

That broke my heart a little bit. I'm so glad that there is a happy ending :)
My son always stays to himself as well and I'm worried - the teachers tell me everything is fine and I know he's happy. That's all I want for him...

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10/10/2012 19:31

This is so very sweet. I still worry about my 19 year old in college. He never had a ton friends -- by choice. When he went away to college, he started the same thing. I started to panic a bit. Then I remembered that's how he was in kindergarten- that's just how he is. Quieter and more sensitive (like his mama). I reminded him it will all work out. It's tough on mom though.

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10/10/2012 21:03

I have always had a tear find a way out at the conferences for my two girls. There is so much heart that goes into being a parent and to hear what people outside of our homes see in them can be very moving. I'm happy that these were tears of joy!

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10/11/2012 06:12

This post has made me so excited for when Lil Mister starts big school!! He is still a toddler and I do get such enjoyment from seeing his ‘art work’ sent home from daycare! I also know that fear of friends (we’re in a bully stage now so I worry about him a lot!) and am always relieved when the teacher sends photos or tells stories of friends playing together!! Makes my day so much better!

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10/11/2012 07:04

Aw...I'm so glad he has friends, and you have that wonderful feeling of relief knowing about it. I'm glad you asked the teacher instead of just wondering!

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10/11/2012 08:36

Oh it's so hard being a mom. We want everyone to see the sweet little child that we know so well. I'm right there with you mama. I would have felt the same. Such a sweet post.

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10/11/2012 23:40

Oh Gah, you're gonna make me cry! It's so hard sending them out into the world sometimes, isn't it? xoxo

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10/12/2012 02:18

Oh, what better thing to know but that your child is loved outside of home, just as he is at home? Lovely post.

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10/15/2012 19:15

oh, how every single parent can relate to this post!!!

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10/16/2012 09:44

Oh mama.,... big fat sloppy tears for your little mister. Two whole friends.

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