I was the only girl. I have two older brothers that protected me and taught me how to fart and think it's cool. This served me well in my childhood and still does to this day. But when I started my transformation into womanhood, they stopped understanding me. I mean, teenage boys cannot be made to understand sore boobs and periods right?

Around thirteen is when it started. My love for metal music turned to dreams of falling deeply in love with drummers and gutarists. I didn't want to get muddy any more. I wanted my hair spiral permed, dammit and I wanted to lay on my bed and feel deep and very serious feelings about my future marriage to 2/3 of Motley Crue. These things served to temporarily drive a wedge in our sibling relationship. My brothers just wouldn't ever understand me or the importance of perfectly applied blue liquid eyeliner.

In retrospect, this must have been the time I began searching the world over for my sisters. Because there comes a time in every teenager's life when it is obvious that no one in their life could ever really get them or feel their pain.

So I became proactive and searched for my tribe. One by one I found them. All thirteen of them.

Twenty-ish years later we are a pretty damn strong band of sisters. We are each others chosen family. Our love for each other has weathered just about every big life shitstorm you can think of. You know those times when you really can't get out of bed because your world has come crashing down around you? Divorce. Cancer. Death. Or the times when you are so full of joy you need others to explode with excitement alongside you? Weddings. Babies born. Promotions. New stomach flipping love. My sisters have been there. For all of it.

Integral to our love affair with each other is our yearly trip to the woods to commune with nature. Ha! Not really, well we are
in the woods but that’s about as natural as it gets. We spend our days watching movies and nights in the hot tub. Adorned with temporary tattoos, drag queen make up and wigs. Also glow sticks. Many many glow sticks.

We give each other gifts of our favorite things, just like Oprah. “YOU get a pair of rainbow socks! And YOU get a pair of rainbow socks! And YOU!”. 

Four days of awesome. Four days of no responsability. No rules. No expectations. No reality. Just play. 

We are ridiculous.


We eat delicious foods like 99 cent pizzas and brownies. We paint our toenails and stage photo shoots fourteen year old girl style. We drink a bit.  We do cartwheels. And sing the Star Spangled banner around campfires.
We trespass in corn fields.


We dance. We roll around in the grass. And play with our camera settings.

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DUDE my phone has hypercolor!
Then we head home to the real world of sick kids, paperwork and wiping butts. We come back to the world ready once again to hold the line when a sister has a broken heart, a lost job or enters a shame spiral in the Target changing room. We are ready to link arms and form a blockade around a sister who needs protecting.  We eat our feelings together and then pick each other up off the ground and choreograph a dance routine to feel better. We are a family. A family of fourteen year old girls masquerading as responsible adults and mothers and professionals. 
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Saying goodbye
And we totally have everyone fooled.


Now I want to know about your people. Who is in your chosen family?
 


Comments

Jessica
09/21/2012 23:04

I puffy heart with unicorns and rainbows love this.

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Mama Pants
09/21/2012 23:31

Well you have to know that I puffy heart with rainbows and unicorns love you too.

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09/21/2012 23:53

You guys are so much fun. I envy your sisterhood! What a blast you must have together.

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Mama Pants
09/22/2012 00:43

We do! It's not always pretty but it's usually fun ;)

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09/22/2012 07:27

I envy you. To have other women to rely on at all times and to let lose with. I don't have this. It's awesome that you have all found each other. :)

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Mama Pants
09/24/2012 01:00

It's never too late to find your chosen sisters ;)

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Trudy
09/22/2012 08:32

I double chocolate vodka shot love this and so proud to be one of your laydeez, I'm tearing up with love, gratitude, pride, and excitement for our later adventures....

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Jessica
09/22/2012 10:57

MMmmmmm....chocolate vodka....

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Mama Pants
09/24/2012 01:01

xoxox <3 <3 and I'm gonna second what Jessica said up there ;)

09/22/2012 10:01

This is wonderful, I have a my sistafriend who lives about 4 hours away, we spent a weekend together this spring and had a ball! Visiting from SITS.

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Mama Pants
09/24/2012 01:03

Awesome! I hope you go every year, or even twice a year :)

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09/23/2012 11:26

How awesome to have this, a sisterhood.

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Mama Pants
09/24/2012 01:04

It is awesome, for sure. I hope that every woman finds a chosen sister or two or thirteen in their life. It's never too late to start building a sisterhood :)

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09/24/2012 19:32

I had my sister, and she wouldn't let our mother or myself know how bad things were at home. So we ended up losing her. Just like I've lost most sisters. But guys (not lovers, but friends that are guys)- they always stick around and always ask for help when needed.

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09/26/2012 00:35

Love the post and congratulations on finding such a wonderful tribe!! :))

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Sheila Schafer
09/28/2012 08:31

Boy would I ever love this.. My Oldest daughter and I went to see Kenny Rogers, and my hubby kept saying, get a group of friends together and go to supper then concert. Stay out as late as you want.. Well having a special needs child. I don't get out much to meet other people.. Of course we were home after concert. I am old!! LOL and ready for bed by 10.. concert wasn't over til something after 10.. I was falling asleep on the way home. LOL but we did have fun.

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10/02/2012 11:14

I love this article and I am so jealous of your sisterhood. I have two real sisters and loads of friends but they are spread out all over the damn place. I think I need to organize a girls weekend. It looks like a blast.

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